Thursday, August 29, 2013

Why OBAMA, WHY?


I'm so sick of über liberals thinking that President Obama is perfect. He is a man, therefore, he is anything but PERFECT.

In 2008, the then Presidential Candidate Barak Obama made promises to leave medical marijuana laws in place in states like California and the other 23 states that have medical marijuana laws on the books. He promised, if elected president, that he would not use his agencies and raid our growers and dispensaries of marijuana. Soon after becoming president, Obama made a 180 and instructed his Department of Justice to start raiding marijuana dispensaries across the country.

A promise is a promise. Breaking that promise in 23 states at least 10 times is not an accident nor "getting all the departments in line." He made that promise to us liberals so we would further back him and then pulled away from his promises- to appease a middle ground that will never support him 100%- as soon as he got elected.

Yes I know the Repubs suck, but so do the Dems. Not every single action made by a human being is defendable. NOT EVERYTHING REPUBLICANS DO IS BAD AND YES, THE PRESIDENT HAS LIED and CHEATED just like every politician. Monsanto, party of one? Libya? Syria? Bueller?!?

He lied, and now he's slowly backpeddling because he is realizing what every president since Carter has realized: The war on drugs is losing. LOTS of money is being lost. Think about how much money his DOJ costs us every time he raids a slew of dispensaries here in California. This new ruling only effects Colorado and Washington.

His cartels of Justice Department storm troopers are basically doing what a brief published today is promising NOT TO DO:

According to the guidance, DOJ will still prosecute individuals or entities to prevent:


revenue from the sale of marijuana from going to criminal enterprises, gangs and cartels;
the diversion of marijuana from states where it is legal under state law in some form to other states...


You can read the whole brief here:

http://www.docstoc.com/docs/160507622/DAGMemo8-29-13

By criminalizing state laws that protect patients, their rights, and the rights of consumers and producers to participate in a capitalist economy, all Obama is really doing is putting the drugs and revenues back in the hands of criminals


It's my constitutional right and duty in my mind to question our leadership. I just dont understand people who shove all of his dirty antics under the mat and still think he is the great white hope of a president. He's been decent. Thats all. Better than Bush, better than McCain or Romney woulda been, but still just very decent.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

ALPHABEAT


Today is a new dawn, a new day, and I'm feeling good.

One of the single most important things to me in my life is MUSIC. I listen to music all of the time. I love singing, I love dancing, and I love music wrapping up like blanket of warmth in my ears.

One of my absolute favouritist touring bands of today is the Danish band ALPHABEAT.

They are super '80's poptastic and I just love them. It's a 6 member band with 2 lead singers: a guy and a girl. So the harmonies and lyrics are always simple but really catchy.

If you've never heard them before, I'm posting a few links to their vids:

"Fascination" is their most popular song. It's rare to find a European that has not heard "Fascination":

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QvD6maGRh7c

One of my personal favs is "Heat Wave". I can dance the shit outta this song at any turn.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dB01PTZNpBc

I hope you enjoy! Love them!

#ALPHABEAT





Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Closure

Today I thought I was going to cut ties with someone that I have recently been seeing.

This person and I started off great, but his job got so in the way of his life that he quit communicating with me.

My stance, the whole time, was "you make time for the people you love." Granted, we've only known each other for a little over a month, so I wouldn't say that we were 'in love' or anything, but the point remains.

In this digital age where so many options are available at our fingertips, is it really so hard to pick up the phone? To fire back a text in less than a days time response to the person who text you?

Because he wasn't communicating, and was only absent, I didn't know what to think. I just assumed that he wasn't man enough to tell me he was seeing someone else or man enough to tell me that he just wasn't that into me.

But the waiting and silence on his part took a tole on me. I started questioning how I could be so dumb as to let another asshole into my life who doesn't value me for me. What was wrong with me that made him lose interest so quickly? I shouldn't think this way, but guys hit a soft spot inside my heart and I have a problem not psycho analyzing everything that I did "wrong". I don't suffer from depression, but I do have the ability to take myself into a dark place in my head where I just blame myself for everything and question everything I do.

Maybe it's because I have been hurt in the past. Maybe it is because I grew up without a father throughout most of my youth....maybe it's just that I'm too hard on myself.



Anyway, today I was strong and went to confront him. He had some stuff of mine that I needed back, and all of a sudden starts immediately responding back to every text and with
diligence.

When I arrived, he asked me what was wrong. Probably because my energy could power a northern European city for a week.

I laid into him saying I'm sorry that we didn't work out. That I needed someone who communicates more. I told him how some of his texts made me feel like shit, feel worthless, and feel that I was second guessing myself.

I could see in his eyes that he was sorry. He said that it had nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. I could see he meant that too. In fact, I could see in his eyes that he still likes me.

When he walked me to my car, I told him that I was sorry we didn't work out. Told him I need someone who communicates more. He answered back that we could still work things out. That he would communicate more. That he just needed time...

Time is what got us here in the first place.


He said he was sorry for hurting me and stated that it had been a long time since he had dated anybody. I too said I hadnt dated anyone in a long time. I told him I hoped that I didn't come off as that annoying guy by texting too much, though I know I had not. He just shook his head and hugged me.

You see, I went there to end it all. I hadn't physically seen him in the flesh in more than 2 weeks and his vacant texting and not returning a few calls had led me to believe it was over.


Last night, my friend Louie and I were talking about what happens to those friends, family members, or lovers that were once so close in your life and are now gone? Are they just living their lives? Have they moved on? Were they somewhere in the world also munching on Taco Bell at 1 in the morning?

Had I just walked outta this guy's life, I probably would have partially blamed myself and I never understood what happened between us. Do I know now? Not really.

The closure I get from all of this is the fact that I am man enough to be able to address these issues with the guys I'm into. Yes, I haven't done that much dating recently, but one thing that tells me I'm ready to embrace someone in my life is the fact that I am open and able to honestly communicate my feelings to that person.

For now. I don't know what I'm going to do. Should I wait? Should I move on and forget about him? Time will tell. And the old adage rings true: It's better to have love then lost than to have never loved at all.

Monday, August 26, 2013

Land of Enchantment, indeed!


49 U.S. states have marriage laws on the books: whether in support of full equality or against it.

New Mexico has no marriage laws in their constitution with gender specifications....

Today a judge ruled that two counties in New Mexico must begin issuing marriage licenses in their state due to the state not having specific marriage laws.

Judge Alan Malott: "There is no benefit to the parties or the public interest in having this matter progress through a lengthy path of litigation while basic constitutional rights are being compromised or denied on a daily basis."

Read more: http://livewire.koat.com/Event/Live_Video_Couples_sue_for_same-sex_marriage_rights#ixzz2d7VKQnht

We might just have gotten a 14th state added to the list of states with full marriage equality!

#LUCKYNUMBER14?

http://livewire.koat.com/Event/Live_Video_Couples_sue_for_same-sex_marriage_rights

Sunday, August 25, 2013

ANAL SEX: Who's having it, who's taking it, and who's loving it?

Yes, that's a picture of my ass.


Now that I've gotten your FULL attention, I want to talk to you about something serious:

ANAL SEX

Yes. I said it.

Booty sex has grown from being something of a taboo subject into something that more and more people are willing to talk about. The reasoning? More and more people are trying it... and I don't just mean us homos.

I've known for a while that straight men are into anal sex because of my girl friends admitting to me that they have tried it with their boyfriends. And come on...asses are hot.


Yes, that was my ass again. It's hot, right? lol.

How many times are asses sung about in songs? Praised, even?

"Baby Got Back" is probably the most known song from the 90's. PERIOD. What about the "Apple Bottom Jeans, Boots with the fur, Shawty got low" song? I just googled and there are 3 million, top 10 Butt Song lists online. Let's not forget "Bootylicious". Or "My Humps", "Shake Your Booty", "Fat Bottom Girls", and "The Thong Song", also come to mind when thinking about the REAR.

So obviously we are living in a society that accepts the beauty of a hot butt, and we can appreciate the esthetics of a hot ass...so why don't we actually talk about the booty and making love to it?

Why the taboo? Yes the bible says this and bible says that, but did the bible include enemas? Did the bible include cleaning yourself out?

I mean, it seems one of the biggest disses on anal sex is the poo factor:

Yes, we all shit. But unless you are a dog or seriously demented or into German Sheisse porn, NONE of us LIKE SHIT. SHIT stinks. SHIT is gross. SHIT IS SHIT! TAKE CARE OF IT!

Use an enema. Use a fleet. Use your garden hose or shower stream...just clean it out! (Hence why gay men always shower: we don't like to get dirty when getting dirrrrty, Xtina.)

Now that all that SHIT has been metaphorically washed away, why are we still not more open about anal sex?

God put nerve endings in your anal cavity for a reason, my dears.

God made your anal cavity so well that it is able to expand and contract to be able to process digestion but also process how great it feels to take something in your butt.

And if you really want to talk anatomy, both men and women have G spots. For men, it happens to be in the butt. So basically men were biologically designed to get anally stimulated to achieve the maximum amount of orgasm and pleasure.

Really, I think it is a societal stigma placed on men that has them fearing trying anal sex. Our society teaches us that men are supposed to be the dominate ones doing the penetrating. Yet, I don't think there is anything submissive about getting fucked in the ass.

Unless you are naturally submissive, you can be just as dominate with a toy, penis, or phallic object in your back side as you can being on the other end of the stick. Pun intended. Pleasure is pleasure. I have lots of girlfriends that I consider to be the dominate partner in their relationships and that "role" often translates into the bedroom, too, be it in the same "role" or opposite. Point is, just because you like to get penetrated in the ass, it doesn't make you less of a man.

Maybe if our society didn't put as much pressure as we do on men to be this archetype of a dominate, emotionless being, there wouldn't be such a stigma against sexual liberation in regards to anal sex. In my mind, all men, gay or straight, should be more versatile. In my mind, anal sex makes a man a better sexual partner because he now knows what it's like to feel someone else inside of him. To really feel the connection that we have perceived only women could feel. Men have a unique position in this world in that we can enjoy sex as the "giver" or "taker". The fucker or fuckee.

I am a versatile gay man, meaning I have no preference when it comes to having anal sex with my lovers. I came to realize a very long time ago that either penetrating a guy's ass or getting mine penetrated feels amazing and having the option of versatility makes for more options in the bedroom.

I don't fall into the stereotype of "TOP" or "BOTTOM" because I am simply both.

I've asked my gay guy friends this upcoming question and 100% of them answered the same way:

"You say you are strictly a top or strictly a bottom, well what happens when the man of your dreams walks in the door and he considers himself to be the opposite sexual role that you have proclaimed yourself to be?"

"Would you not pursue it?"

Of course they all answer that they would pursue it and would then go forth with a more open mind. Obviously there are those that strictly prefer one role or another, but again, I feel like they are truly limiting themselves from having the fullest sex life they could have.

If I had to put my two cents in the jar, I would say most gay men are actually versatile. I would say more men are curious about anal sex than actually realized. I would say more women have tried it than actually mentioned at the cocktail hour. Basically, I would say that anal sex feels great and the more people that realize this, the more we as a society will accept it and be able to talk about anal sex in a more open manner.


In conclusion, I will say this: go have anal sex.

A lot of us, whether willing to talk about it or not, have already tried anal sex. And loved it. We realized a long time ago that our body is a temple:

just some places on our bodies are more "holy" than the others...




and yes, that's my butt. again. you're welcome.

Friday, August 23, 2013

Weho Pickup Bus

From one of my short stories:


Here is snidbit of "Get Me to the Parthenon on Time!", one of my 16 short stories in my upcoming book:

16

We landed in Athens and my mom was feeling the jet lag.

My ass, on the other hand, had taken two sleeping pills, ate a pot brownie, had a glass of red, and downed a valium on the plane. So, after sleeping the entire flight, I was feeling alive and powerful! Like a god of olden times: Zeus! (Well, maybe more like Apollo…or maybe even more like Aphrodite…yet still oh so powerful, damnit!)

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

I like Crazy


I like crazy. I dig crazy. I get crazy. Crazy loves company!

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

I'm only Happy when it Rains!



The rain in LA falls mostly on le gays...


Love waking up to see West Hollywood is getting rained on! In the summer, no less!

I'm only happy when it rains!

Monday, August 19, 2013

Never Get Burned Tanning Again!

I love me some sunshine!

Some of that vitamin D deliciousness always puts a smile on my face and a dark shade on my body. (Which complements my stunning blue eyes!)

I love the sun, but you gotta know how to protect yourself. Here's what I do and how I haven't had a bad sunburn in 10 years!

1. Don't go out at high noon- wait until later or don't drink so much the night before so you can lay out in the morning!

2. Wear sunscreen! Sounds like I'm stating the obvious, but you don't have to go overboard with SPF 1000. A good 15-30 will suffice. This is mostly to prevent premature wrinkling so you don't look like an old bitch or petrified mummy by 40.

4. Drink lots of water before, after, and while laying out.

3. Set an alarm on your phone so you don't fall asleep and wake up Kentucky Fried Chicken

4. Shower immediately after laying out. In fact, swim while laying out. Then shower at least 2 times after tanning before you go to bed that night.

5. Drink more water.

6. Moisturize moisturize moisturize! Use as much lotion or moisturizer as you want. As many times as you want. you want to feel like the Gulf of Mexico after a British Petroleum oil spill! So greasy you could float!

Aloe is natural, amazing, and can be free if you grow it! Either way, hydrate the fuck outta your skin like Katrina on N'Orleans!

7. Get plenty of sleep!

8. Drink more water!

My secret is simple: the more you maximize absolute hydration back to your skin cells, you are replenishing them with nutrients lost/depleted by the sun.

Attack those cells and let 'em know you mean business! You are not gonna get a sunburn!


Monday, August 12, 2013

Life is no Game of Thrones


So I've been addicted to Game of Thrones as of late.

One thing I have gathered from this show is this:

Fuck, I would not have wanted to live back in Medieval times!

I mean, what the hell would you really have to look forward to? Wars, famine, or plagues? Being taken as a slave? Being raped and murdered or forced into a life you didn't choose for yourself?

I mean, crossing the street or doing something as remedial as venturing into the woods could get you killed!

A lot of bloodshed, gore, and little hope for happiness- other than getting your dick off- seemed to be daily life for people. I know that Game of Thrones is fictional, but I gotta believe all the jousting, fighting, bleeding, whoring, and mischief went on back then similarly as it is portrayed on the show. Probably worse.

Who knows how bad life could have gotten for us gays?

...I couldn't imagine what it would have been like to've lived back then!

Nowadays, a difficult aspect of life is dealing with a shitty boss or looking for work. Having a head cold or trying to lose weight. Just barely trying to survive is hardly a construct of life as we know it, especially not in the U.S.

Yes, there are still wars, famine, whoring, raping, etc going on, but at least it's not such a daily aspect of our lives that our children have to bare witness to it all on the daily.

Unless their parents let them watch youtube or Game of Thrones....

Friday, August 9, 2013

My cousin's Florida wedding

Hello from Florida. I just witnessed my 2nd cousin's wedding and it was beautiful.

I can't believe I finally live in a U. S. state where marriage equality is legal.

Marriage is such a fundamental part of growing up and our society that I, too, have taken it for granted. But I'm blessed.

Cheers to marriage! Cheers to Floridia! (Tho, get with it and join Cali in marriage equality reform!)

Life is so short. It's time we all start living it like we wanna be here! Love is love!