Now that I've gotten your FULL attention, I want to talk to you about something serious:
ANAL SEX
Yes. I said it.
Booty sex has grown from being something of a taboo subject into something that more and more people are willing to talk about. The reasoning? More and more people are trying it... and I don't just mean us homos.
I've known for a while that straight men are into anal sex because of my girl friends admitting to me that they have tried it with their boyfriends. And come on...asses are hot.
Yes, that was my ass again. It's hot, right? lol.
How many times are asses sung about in songs? Praised, even?
"Baby Got Back" is probably the most known song from the 90's. PERIOD. What about the "Apple Bottom Jeans, Boots with the fur, Shawty got low" song? I just googled and there are 3 million, top 10 Butt Song lists online. Let's not forget "Bootylicious". Or "My Humps", "Shake Your Booty", "Fat Bottom Girls", and "The Thong Song", also come to mind when thinking about the REAR.
So obviously we are living in a society that accepts the beauty of a hot butt, and we can appreciate the esthetics of a hot ass...so why don't we actually talk about the booty and making love to it?
Why the taboo? Yes the bible says this and bible says that, but did the bible include enemas? Did the bible include cleaning yourself out?
I mean, it seems one of the biggest disses on anal sex is the poo factor:
Yes, we all shit. But unless you are a dog or seriously demented or into German Sheisse porn, NONE of us LIKE SHIT. SHIT stinks. SHIT is gross. SHIT IS SHIT! TAKE CARE OF IT!
Use an enema. Use a fleet. Use your garden hose or shower stream...just clean it out! (Hence why gay men always shower: we don't like to get dirty when getting dirrrrty, Xtina.)
Now that all that SHIT has been metaphorically washed away, why are we still not more open about anal sex?
God put nerve endings in your anal cavity for a reason, my dears.
God made your anal cavity so well that it is able to expand and contract to be able to process digestion but also process how great it feels to take something in your butt.
And if you really want to talk anatomy, both men and women have G spots. For men, it happens to be in the butt. So basically men were biologically designed to get anally stimulated to achieve the maximum amount of orgasm and pleasure.
Really, I think it is a societal stigma placed on men that has them fearing trying anal sex. Our society teaches us that men are supposed to be the dominate ones doing the penetrating. Yet, I don't think there is anything submissive about getting fucked in the ass.
Unless you are naturally submissive, you can be just as dominate with a toy, penis, or phallic object in your back side as you can being on the other end of the stick. Pun intended. Pleasure is pleasure. I have lots of girlfriends that I consider to be the dominate partner in their relationships and that "role" often translates into the bedroom, too, be it in the same "role" or opposite. Point is, just because you like to get penetrated in the ass, it doesn't make you less of a man.
Maybe if our society didn't put as much pressure as we do on men to be this archetype of a dominate, emotionless being, there wouldn't be such a stigma against sexual liberation in regards to anal sex. In my mind, all men, gay or straight, should be more versatile. In my mind, anal sex makes a man a better sexual partner because he now knows what it's like to feel someone else inside of him. To really feel the connection that we have perceived only women could feel. Men have a unique position in this world in that we can enjoy sex as the "giver" or "taker". The fucker or fuckee.
I am a versatile gay man, meaning I have no preference when it comes to having anal sex with my lovers. I came to realize a very long time ago that either penetrating a guy's ass or getting mine penetrated feels amazing and having the option of versatility makes for more options in the bedroom.
I don't fall into the stereotype of "TOP" or "BOTTOM" because I am simply both.
I've asked my gay guy friends this upcoming question and 100% of them answered the same way:
"You say you are strictly a top or strictly a bottom, well what happens when the man of your dreams walks in the door and he considers himself to be the opposite sexual role that you have proclaimed yourself to be?"
"Would you not pursue it?"
Of course they all answer that they would pursue it and would then go forth with a more open mind. Obviously there are those that strictly prefer one role or another, but again, I feel like they are truly limiting themselves from having the fullest sex life they could have.
If I had to put my two cents in the jar, I would say most gay men are actually versatile. I would say more men are curious about anal sex than actually realized. I would say more women have tried it than actually mentioned at the cocktail hour. Basically, I would say that anal sex feels great and the more people that realize this, the more we as a society will accept it and be able to talk about anal sex in a more open manner.
In conclusion, I will say this: go have anal sex.
A lot of us, whether willing to talk about it or not, have already tried anal sex. And loved it. We realized a long time ago that our body is a temple:
just some places on our bodies are more "holy" than the others...
and yes, that's my butt. again. you're welcome.
